Narcissistic Personality Disorder or NPD

Diagnostic criteria (DSM-5)

A grandiose sense of self-importance (eg, the individual exaggerates achievements and talents and expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements) A preoccupation with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love.May 16, 2018

or does she have this one

Malignant narcissism includes a sadistic element creating, in essence, a sadistic psychopath. … Kernberg first proposed malignant narcissism as a psychiatric diagnosis in 1984, but so far it has not been accepted in any of the medical manuals, such as the ICD-10 or the DSM5.

Common symptoms of NPD include:

  • grandiose fantasies and behavior, such as a preoccupation with thoughts of personal success, power, and attractiveness or sex appeal
  • little or no empathy for other people’s emotions or feelings
  • a significant need for attention, admiration, and recognition
  • an inflated sense of self-importance, such as a tendency to exaggerate personal talent or achievements
  • a belief in personal specialness and superiority
  • a sense of entitlement
  • a tendency to take advantage of others or exploit people for personal gain
  • arrogant or conceited behavior and attitudes
  • a tendency to envy others and believe others envy them

Can you see this happening in Meghan Markle’s case or her families?  

It goes on to another level of a sadistic tendency that I sure hope isn’t happening. 

  • disdain for authority and social norms, shown by continued illegal or lawbreaking behavior
  • a pattern of deceit, including exploitation and manipulation of other people
  • reckless, impulsive, or risky behavior that shows disregard for personal safety or the safety of other people
  • little or no remorse for harmful or illegal actions
  • a generally hostile, irritable, aggressive, restless, or agitated mood
  • a pattern of irresponsible, arrogant, or disrespectful behavior
  • difficulty planning ahead

Pathological lying can be much more subtle than in Ted Bundy’s case. The term “gas lighting” is often used when someone denies another person’s reality to purposely manipulate them into feeling insane. This is another tactic frequently used in both malignant narcissists and general narcissists with NPD.

The warning signs of involvement with someone who may be afflicted are as follows:

  1. Success At Any Cost. A close inspection of past relationships may show a failure to treat people kindly for the promise of a grandiose, yet superficial success. Beware of flaunted expenses, especially if there are a lack of people to share in the enjoyment.
  2. Narcissists may be hypersexual, often in relation to power and control. Incest is frequently reported as well as a lack of regard for partner and boundaries.
  3. Incessant Blaming. Lack of personal responsibility is a key sign.  Often a narcissist will play ‘the victim’ even when he/she has hurt someone else.
  4. Violence. Since their ego is so fragile to begin with, any criticism received feels like an attack.  They fight back much harder than what is doled out.  Someone who uses violence frequently, demonstrates lack of impulse control and may also have multiple addictions.
  5. Manipulation. Pitting people against one another for the ultimate goal of loyalty is often used by narcissists. In this case, loyalty often means isolation.

Sound familiar?